Showing posts with label Personality. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Personality. Show all posts
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Positive Brainwashing
By Cornelis Boertjens
Brainwashing is a term perceived in a negative way by most people. But you know what, I think our brains could actually do with a bit of a washing sometimes!
You see, everyone comes into this world with a clear mind, and a belief that everything is possible. All is positive and well. Remember as a child, you could do and become everything, without any boundaries!
As we grow up however, we pick up beliefs, fears and limitations from our surroundings and peers that gradually form the person we are today. A lot of these beliefs unfortunately are negative and as we build our lives they limit us in our actions and being. Very often they therefore contribute to unhappiness or feeling unfulfilled in our lives and business.
It can be the smallest -- seemingly harmless -- remark from a mother like "just let me handle that, you are no good at that" that can convince you that you are not good at a certain task. A teacher who calls a pupil "the clumsy one" can do more harm with this remark than he realizes when repeated often enough. With every remark the belief is harnessed further in the child that it indeed is clumsy. Even though a remark is said with a smile or with the intend to be funny, it still leaves a legacy in the belief system.
This programming of course doesn’t stop at adulthood, it keeps influencing people in all stages of life. We are being influenced by our parents, kids, partner, friends, colleagues, television, newspapers, magazines and so on. Sometimes positive, but very often in a negative way. No wonder we limit ourselves in so many ways! Belief is the key to your success. If you belief you can do something, you can. If you belief you can’t do something, you will be right too.
The good news is: we can "reprogram" our mind and replace our negative, limiting beliefs for positive contributing ones. Positive brainwashing is what I like to call it! This can be done by the use of so called "affirmations". An affirmation is a positive self talk statement, stated in the present tense that covers a goal you want to achieve and that ‘overrules’ negative beliefs towards that goal.
Brainwashing is a term perceived in a negative way by most people. But you know what, I think our brains could actually do with a bit of a washing sometimes!
You see, everyone comes into this world with a clear mind, and a belief that everything is possible. All is positive and well. Remember as a child, you could do and become everything, without any boundaries!
As we grow up however, we pick up beliefs, fears and limitations from our surroundings and peers that gradually form the person we are today. A lot of these beliefs unfortunately are negative and as we build our lives they limit us in our actions and being. Very often they therefore contribute to unhappiness or feeling unfulfilled in our lives and business.
It can be the smallest -- seemingly harmless -- remark from a mother like "just let me handle that, you are no good at that" that can convince you that you are not good at a certain task. A teacher who calls a pupil "the clumsy one" can do more harm with this remark than he realizes when repeated often enough. With every remark the belief is harnessed further in the child that it indeed is clumsy. Even though a remark is said with a smile or with the intend to be funny, it still leaves a legacy in the belief system.
This programming of course doesn’t stop at adulthood, it keeps influencing people in all stages of life. We are being influenced by our parents, kids, partner, friends, colleagues, television, newspapers, magazines and so on. Sometimes positive, but very often in a negative way. No wonder we limit ourselves in so many ways! Belief is the key to your success. If you belief you can do something, you can. If you belief you can’t do something, you will be right too.
The good news is: we can "reprogram" our mind and replace our negative, limiting beliefs for positive contributing ones. Positive brainwashing is what I like to call it! This can be done by the use of so called "affirmations". An affirmation is a positive self talk statement, stated in the present tense that covers a goal you want to achieve and that ‘overrules’ negative beliefs towards that goal.
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
How to Sell Anything to Anyone....
If you're a writer, in business or in the marketing arena who's interested in specializing in this million dollar knowledge, you're in luck because I'm going to share 7 of them with you right now. And here they are:
1. Story -- Everyone loves a good story
There's a magic that happens when you tell a story. The reader or listener has to become part of the story, in order to make sense of it. This is where you get them to FEEL, and almost realistically experience -- in their imaginations, what you're telling them. Unconsciously, this creates a memory and it is harder to forget. Finally, it helps you create a bond with your prospect.
Application: Relate to your prospect and come up with a story that gives them imaginative reasons to use your product or service.
2. Time Distortion -- "Pretending They Already Are"
Here's the attitude: "You already want and own this product and let me show you what it's like to." Basically, what you're doing is future pacing their thoughts as if they are holding your product or service in their hands. Use simple descriptive phrases that initiate a "sense" or "touch" response, and it instills in the mind of your prospects that they already own it. They will begin to imagine the benefits of doing so all on their own.
Application: If you sell books, they are flipping though the pages. Electronics, they are using this neat gadget (pushing the buttons, twisting knobs etc). Cars, boats, anything -- get in and drive it, grab the wheel.
3. Credibility -- To Project Authority
Make what you say believable, and nothing outrageous. Who is backing your message? Do you have happy buyers of your products or services? What do they have to say? Put that in your message. Show them experts endorse your products. If it's not believable, your prospects are going to "pick up" on that. Credibility instills what you're saying is true, period. Just give proof.
Application: Ask your customers for testimonials, even if you have to ethically bribe them for one. Offer a free sample, bonus, or report. Simply put, the more credibility you create for you and your product or service, the more believable the message becomes, and the less resistance they have when it comes to make a buying decision.
4. Urgency -- To Act Now
Even if your sales message is emotionally driven and powerful -- making them feel like the want to buy, place a sense of urgency to reinforce them to buy it now, and to not wait, period. Limited offers, supplies won't last, this deal won't last long. No matter how powerful your sales message is, if they get away -- after so long, the feeling and their buying decision erodes away their desire to buy now, until it's gone.
Application: Come up with a compelling reason to get your prospect to feel so compelled it's absolutely necessary they must buy it now, because it's urgent. Maybe use "fear of loss."
5. I Gave It To You Free, You're Guilty -- To Create The Return Effect
Ever get an offer in the mail of a free sample of a product? Ever go to a website and get 3 free chapters of a book? Giving something to someone for free creates guilt, the feeling to give back. If your friend buys you dinner, you might feel the need to buy it next time. It's human nature. When something's given, the desire to give back is created.
Application: Give away a free sample or report -- anything for free. Make sure it is something of real value. After, suggest that you've given them something and how they're one tuff nut to crack, because you've given them something for free, and you haven't heard back from them. Sit back, and watch them buy.
6. Commit then remain Consistent -- To Create Long-Term
Friendships/Action
Here's the attitude: "If you're buying from me now, we're friends; you'll buy more from me too." You've won the customers trust once you've established the first sale, and once they're happy, make them happy again, and again. Buy something from the television and you're almost always asked to buy more, it's simple. Then, two months later, another offer from that same company rings on your phone in the other room, or the offer is waiting in your mail box when you get home. Normally, being a much higher priced product or service. Why not ask? You're obviously
qualified.
Application: If they buy once, get them to buy again and again. If you sell information memberships, sell all the tools and products that the membership consists of (improving your golf game membership website -- sell golf clubs, balls, clothing, shoes etc.) If you sell them a book, sell them a home study course that's more expensive.
7. Curiosity -- To Keep Your Prospect Tuned In
Early in your sales presentation, promise what will happen when they finish and complete your sales presentation, and keep them curious. Curiosity is a powerful tool you can use to keep your prospect in suspense, and to search out the answers to satisfy that strong desire to "fill in" the missing information. Leave out certain information in your benefits that "trigger" the thought "What will happen if?"
Application: Instill and arouse curiosity early in your sales presentation to cause your prospect to want to complete your message (i.e. tell them there's a misspelled word in your sales copy, and if they can find it -- they get a special deal. Ask them if they want to compelling benefit, and tell them they'll find the answer as they continue to read, or pay attention to you.
As you've probably noticed, it's infinitely more powerful to apply these psychological devices in your presentation when you realize they all open the flood gates of a person's brain, and deliver compelling emotions and complex thoughts and meaning. Anyone who comes across one of these seven applications will "undergo" the spell of this covert influence because it sparks response below a person's surface awareness.
So, the only question to ask yourself is: "Are *you* going to use them? To find out, simply go through the following checklist, and count the number of items that apply to you.
1. You want more sales
2. You're willing to look through your sales presentation making sure each of these devices are applied
3. You prefer to *use* powerful knowledge over just "knowing it"
4. You want more power in your ability to influence others on undetectable brain levels
5. You are curious and interested in creating more powerful "unconscious" influence
6. Covert persuasion and influence doesn't scare you and you'll use it to your advantage in ethical and judicious ways
1. Story -- Everyone loves a good story
There's a magic that happens when you tell a story. The reader or listener has to become part of the story, in order to make sense of it. This is where you get them to FEEL, and almost realistically experience -- in their imaginations, what you're telling them. Unconsciously, this creates a memory and it is harder to forget. Finally, it helps you create a bond with your prospect.
Application: Relate to your prospect and come up with a story that gives them imaginative reasons to use your product or service.
2. Time Distortion -- "Pretending They Already Are"
Here's the attitude: "You already want and own this product and let me show you what it's like to." Basically, what you're doing is future pacing their thoughts as if they are holding your product or service in their hands. Use simple descriptive phrases that initiate a "sense" or "touch" response, and it instills in the mind of your prospects that they already own it. They will begin to imagine the benefits of doing so all on their own.
Application: If you sell books, they are flipping though the pages. Electronics, they are using this neat gadget (pushing the buttons, twisting knobs etc). Cars, boats, anything -- get in and drive it, grab the wheel.
3. Credibility -- To Project Authority
Make what you say believable, and nothing outrageous. Who is backing your message? Do you have happy buyers of your products or services? What do they have to say? Put that in your message. Show them experts endorse your products. If it's not believable, your prospects are going to "pick up" on that. Credibility instills what you're saying is true, period. Just give proof.
Application: Ask your customers for testimonials, even if you have to ethically bribe them for one. Offer a free sample, bonus, or report. Simply put, the more credibility you create for you and your product or service, the more believable the message becomes, and the less resistance they have when it comes to make a buying decision.
4. Urgency -- To Act Now
Even if your sales message is emotionally driven and powerful -- making them feel like the want to buy, place a sense of urgency to reinforce them to buy it now, and to not wait, period. Limited offers, supplies won't last, this deal won't last long. No matter how powerful your sales message is, if they get away -- after so long, the feeling and their buying decision erodes away their desire to buy now, until it's gone.
Application: Come up with a compelling reason to get your prospect to feel so compelled it's absolutely necessary they must buy it now, because it's urgent. Maybe use "fear of loss."
5. I Gave It To You Free, You're Guilty -- To Create The Return Effect
Ever get an offer in the mail of a free sample of a product? Ever go to a website and get 3 free chapters of a book? Giving something to someone for free creates guilt, the feeling to give back. If your friend buys you dinner, you might feel the need to buy it next time. It's human nature. When something's given, the desire to give back is created.
Application: Give away a free sample or report -- anything for free. Make sure it is something of real value. After, suggest that you've given them something and how they're one tuff nut to crack, because you've given them something for free, and you haven't heard back from them. Sit back, and watch them buy.
6. Commit then remain Consistent -- To Create Long-Term
Friendships/Action
Here's the attitude: "If you're buying from me now, we're friends; you'll buy more from me too." You've won the customers trust once you've established the first sale, and once they're happy, make them happy again, and again. Buy something from the television and you're almost always asked to buy more, it's simple. Then, two months later, another offer from that same company rings on your phone in the other room, or the offer is waiting in your mail box when you get home. Normally, being a much higher priced product or service. Why not ask? You're obviously
qualified.
Application: If they buy once, get them to buy again and again. If you sell information memberships, sell all the tools and products that the membership consists of (improving your golf game membership website -- sell golf clubs, balls, clothing, shoes etc.) If you sell them a book, sell them a home study course that's more expensive.
7. Curiosity -- To Keep Your Prospect Tuned In
Early in your sales presentation, promise what will happen when they finish and complete your sales presentation, and keep them curious. Curiosity is a powerful tool you can use to keep your prospect in suspense, and to search out the answers to satisfy that strong desire to "fill in" the missing information. Leave out certain information in your benefits that "trigger" the thought "What will happen if?"
Application: Instill and arouse curiosity early in your sales presentation to cause your prospect to want to complete your message (i.e. tell them there's a misspelled word in your sales copy, and if they can find it -- they get a special deal. Ask them if they want to compelling benefit, and tell them they'll find the answer as they continue to read, or pay attention to you.
As you've probably noticed, it's infinitely more powerful to apply these psychological devices in your presentation when you realize they all open the flood gates of a person's brain, and deliver compelling emotions and complex thoughts and meaning. Anyone who comes across one of these seven applications will "undergo" the spell of this covert influence because it sparks response below a person's surface awareness.
So, the only question to ask yourself is: "Are *you* going to use them? To find out, simply go through the following checklist, and count the number of items that apply to you.
1. You want more sales
2. You're willing to look through your sales presentation making sure each of these devices are applied
3. You prefer to *use* powerful knowledge over just "knowing it"
4. You want more power in your ability to influence others on undetectable brain levels
5. You are curious and interested in creating more powerful "unconscious" influence
6. Covert persuasion and influence doesn't scare you and you'll use it to your advantage in ethical and judicious ways
Friday, February 19, 2010
5 Mind Tricks to Beat the Recession
Opportunites Are Always Available
Here is the real secret – regardless of the economy, opportunities are always available to turn our ideas into cash. Despite the economy many people are still making a lot of money. There’s no reason why you can’t be one of them.
How can you do this?
#1 Start Your Own Business
If one of your goals in life is to achieve wealth and financial independence, one of the quickest and surest ways to achieve those results is through owning a business of your own. Period. Believe it or not, a recession can actually be a wonderful time to start a new business venture. I can tell you right now that some of the most profitable businesses were started during a recession. The owners simply addressed a need during an economic downturn which continued
to be successful even when the economy rebounded.
Starting a business in a recession is like vacationing in the off-season. It’s a little less crowded, and everything starts going on sale. It allows you to tap into new markets, launching new products that will serve the needs of the current economy and build a business for the future.
#2 Pay Close Attention to What You Think and Say
During tough times, it’s easy to get into the habit of thinking negative thoughts and making negative comments. Constantly thinking and talking about what is wrong with your life, your business or the economy will only serve to bring you more of what you focus on. Before you know it, you’ll end up in one of those self-fulfilling prophecies we talked about earlier.
Stay informed, but don’t keep repeating what you hear on the news. Remember, energy flows to where attention goes. By focusing on what you want instead of what you don’t want, you’ll also do wonders for your creative thinking. Creative thinking allows you to come up with solutions to your problems. It also allows you to see new opportunities. One of the biggest downsides to being in a negative frame of mind and focusing on what you don’t want is that it blinds you to opportunities.
#3 Invest In Yourself
Investing in yourself is more secure and more rewarding than owning stocks, bonds or real estate. Moneymaking ideas are everywhere. If you act fast on them, you can prosper fast. Don't simply entrust your money to others to make money for you -- have faith in your own ideas and take control of your own financial future.
The more you expand your awareness and education, the more you will be able to see opportunities to make more money. The more you invest in yourself -- the better the return you'll get when you take action on what you learned.
#4 Understand that Scarcity is a function of the mind; so is Abundance
The choice is always yours. Are you going to focus on scarcity or the lack of something or are you going to focus on creating more of what you want? These are your only two options. Instead of focusing on cutting back and spending less, change your point of focus to create MORE of what you want. Use that same creative energy to attract the things you desire and to improve your life and your business.
# 5 Start appreciating what you already have!
If you really take stock of all the things you do have in your life, I bet you will be amazed. Too often people focus on what’s missing in their lives and as a result, they ignore the riches they do have; a place to live, a car to drive, a job, career or business, a great family, a loving spouse, wonderful children, fantastic pets, loyal friends and the freedom to create whatever they desire.
Every so often someone will write to me and tell me how desperate things are for them. Since I’ve been there myself at one time, I can surely sympathize. But I always point out the same thing…
How bad is it – really?
Ask yourself: how bad is it -- really?
As difficult as you current situation may be, it is only temporary. There are millions of people all around the world would trade places with you in a heartbeat.
The good news is if things are not going your way at the moment this entrapped cyclical experience is only here to give you a warning that your POINT OF FOCUS in going in the wrong direction.
When you feel grateful you automatically place yourself in alignment for more good things to come into your life. It also opens the doorway to your mind. Only when it’s open, can opportunity jump in. Consistent gratitude is the easiest track to ending poverty internally and externally. When your abundance is measured by how deeply you FEEL grateful for what you already have and how often you visit this feeling, then your experience of attracting riches is truly unstoppable. This is
the most direct path to financially magnetizing massive abundance and success.
For example, how bad can it really be if you have enough to eat? Many people around the world have had nothing to eat in days….
How bad can it really be if you are sitting at a computer and writing me an email? Some people around the world don’t even have electricity to run a computer, let alone own a computer.
And finally...
Here is the real secret – regardless of the economy, opportunities are always available to turn our ideas into cash. Despite the economy many people are still making a lot of money. There’s no reason why you can’t be one of them.
How can you do this?
#1 Start Your Own Business
If one of your goals in life is to achieve wealth and financial independence, one of the quickest and surest ways to achieve those results is through owning a business of your own. Period. Believe it or not, a recession can actually be a wonderful time to start a new business venture. I can tell you right now that some of the most profitable businesses were started during a recession. The owners simply addressed a need during an economic downturn which continued
to be successful even when the economy rebounded.
Starting a business in a recession is like vacationing in the off-season. It’s a little less crowded, and everything starts going on sale. It allows you to tap into new markets, launching new products that will serve the needs of the current economy and build a business for the future.
#2 Pay Close Attention to What You Think and Say
During tough times, it’s easy to get into the habit of thinking negative thoughts and making negative comments. Constantly thinking and talking about what is wrong with your life, your business or the economy will only serve to bring you more of what you focus on. Before you know it, you’ll end up in one of those self-fulfilling prophecies we talked about earlier.
Stay informed, but don’t keep repeating what you hear on the news. Remember, energy flows to where attention goes. By focusing on what you want instead of what you don’t want, you’ll also do wonders for your creative thinking. Creative thinking allows you to come up with solutions to your problems. It also allows you to see new opportunities. One of the biggest downsides to being in a negative frame of mind and focusing on what you don’t want is that it blinds you to opportunities.
#3 Invest In Yourself
Investing in yourself is more secure and more rewarding than owning stocks, bonds or real estate. Moneymaking ideas are everywhere. If you act fast on them, you can prosper fast. Don't simply entrust your money to others to make money for you -- have faith in your own ideas and take control of your own financial future.
The more you expand your awareness and education, the more you will be able to see opportunities to make more money. The more you invest in yourself -- the better the return you'll get when you take action on what you learned.
#4 Understand that Scarcity is a function of the mind; so is Abundance
The choice is always yours. Are you going to focus on scarcity or the lack of something or are you going to focus on creating more of what you want? These are your only two options. Instead of focusing on cutting back and spending less, change your point of focus to create MORE of what you want. Use that same creative energy to attract the things you desire and to improve your life and your business.
# 5 Start appreciating what you already have!
If you really take stock of all the things you do have in your life, I bet you will be amazed. Too often people focus on what’s missing in their lives and as a result, they ignore the riches they do have; a place to live, a car to drive, a job, career or business, a great family, a loving spouse, wonderful children, fantastic pets, loyal friends and the freedom to create whatever they desire.
Every so often someone will write to me and tell me how desperate things are for them. Since I’ve been there myself at one time, I can surely sympathize. But I always point out the same thing…
How bad is it – really?
Ask yourself: how bad is it -- really?
As difficult as you current situation may be, it is only temporary. There are millions of people all around the world would trade places with you in a heartbeat.
The good news is if things are not going your way at the moment this entrapped cyclical experience is only here to give you a warning that your POINT OF FOCUS in going in the wrong direction.
When you feel grateful you automatically place yourself in alignment for more good things to come into your life. It also opens the doorway to your mind. Only when it’s open, can opportunity jump in. Consistent gratitude is the easiest track to ending poverty internally and externally. When your abundance is measured by how deeply you FEEL grateful for what you already have and how often you visit this feeling, then your experience of attracting riches is truly unstoppable. This is
the most direct path to financially magnetizing massive abundance and success.
For example, how bad can it really be if you have enough to eat? Many people around the world have had nothing to eat in days….
How bad can it really be if you are sitting at a computer and writing me an email? Some people around the world don’t even have electricity to run a computer, let alone own a computer.
And finally...
Thursday, November 12, 2009
How to Escape the Matrix
The Matrix was one of the most popular and thought-provoking movies of all time. Viewers all over the world were captivated by the film’s primary message: People get into deep trouble when they mistake what they perceive for reality.
What most viewers do not realize is that prior to the release of this groundbreaking film, western intelligence agencies were already using the term "the Matrix" to describe today's world. This was in contrast to their work with remote viewers, who would "escape the matrix" to gather intelligence. Art truly does imitate life.
In the movie, the Matrix is an elaborate Artificial Intelligence computer simulation that's so captivating that people mistake it for reality. People perceive they are walking about and interacting with others, but their physical bodies are actually submerged in fluid-filled pods, "plugged into" the Matrix, while their vital life force is harnessed to power the Matrix.
After Neo (Keanu Reaves) learns the truth, with the help of Morpheus's (Lawrence Fishburne) training, he is able to overcome his misconception that the Matrix is reality. Neo rebels against the machines that create his false reality and, eventually, he escapes the limitations of the Matrix. To others, he has developed superhuman abilities, but, "in reality," he has merely recognized the truth.
Escaping the Matrix is a metaphor for the mystic path to enlightenment.
The Matrix can be defined as the world that we perceive, which includes the physical world, as well as higher planes of emotions and thoughts, which also affect us.
Within the Matrix are countless fear-based thoughts and emotions that condition us to accept limitations. We are taught that we have little power, and what little power we do have, we are advised to delegate to authority figures and experts. Swimming in a sea of negative thoughts, we are prompted to use our creative ability to imagine even more negative thoughts. Without introspection, the Matrix gets darker and more dense.
Anyone who blindly accepts these prevalent, negative thoughts will have his or her life path dictated by the Matrix.
But those who recognize that it is our collective thoughts and beliefs that power the Matrix will recognize the way out.
When we incarnate on earth, we temporarily forget the higher truth of who we are. Our life mission is to remember, to connect with our innermost self, so that we may transcend the Matrix.
The reality we perceive with our senses is not the true reality, but merely a small portion of reality, masquerading as the whole. But, unlike the "alternate reality" that Neo must extricate himself from, in our "reality," there is no need to rebel. Rather, our goal should be to transcend. We want to "be in this world, but not of it."
The outer world is a reflection of our inner thoughts and beliefs, whether individual or collective, which have been conditioned by our experience in the Matrix. Consequently, the Matrix is a learning environment, where we get feedback on how our thoughts manifest. Thankfully, our negative thoughts do not (typically) manifest instantaneously. Otherwise, we would risk the spontaneous destruction of our world by thinking negative thoughts.
What most viewers do not realize is that prior to the release of this groundbreaking film, western intelligence agencies were already using the term "the Matrix" to describe today's world. This was in contrast to their work with remote viewers, who would "escape the matrix" to gather intelligence. Art truly does imitate life.
In the movie, the Matrix is an elaborate Artificial Intelligence computer simulation that's so captivating that people mistake it for reality. People perceive they are walking about and interacting with others, but their physical bodies are actually submerged in fluid-filled pods, "plugged into" the Matrix, while their vital life force is harnessed to power the Matrix.
After Neo (Keanu Reaves) learns the truth, with the help of Morpheus's (Lawrence Fishburne) training, he is able to overcome his misconception that the Matrix is reality. Neo rebels against the machines that create his false reality and, eventually, he escapes the limitations of the Matrix. To others, he has developed superhuman abilities, but, "in reality," he has merely recognized the truth.
Escaping the Matrix is a metaphor for the mystic path to enlightenment.
The Matrix can be defined as the world that we perceive, which includes the physical world, as well as higher planes of emotions and thoughts, which also affect us.
Within the Matrix are countless fear-based thoughts and emotions that condition us to accept limitations. We are taught that we have little power, and what little power we do have, we are advised to delegate to authority figures and experts. Swimming in a sea of negative thoughts, we are prompted to use our creative ability to imagine even more negative thoughts. Without introspection, the Matrix gets darker and more dense.
Anyone who blindly accepts these prevalent, negative thoughts will have his or her life path dictated by the Matrix.
But those who recognize that it is our collective thoughts and beliefs that power the Matrix will recognize the way out.
When we incarnate on earth, we temporarily forget the higher truth of who we are. Our life mission is to remember, to connect with our innermost self, so that we may transcend the Matrix.
The reality we perceive with our senses is not the true reality, but merely a small portion of reality, masquerading as the whole. But, unlike the "alternate reality" that Neo must extricate himself from, in our "reality," there is no need to rebel. Rather, our goal should be to transcend. We want to "be in this world, but not of it."
The outer world is a reflection of our inner thoughts and beliefs, whether individual or collective, which have been conditioned by our experience in the Matrix. Consequently, the Matrix is a learning environment, where we get feedback on how our thoughts manifest. Thankfully, our negative thoughts do not (typically) manifest instantaneously. Otherwise, we would risk the spontaneous destruction of our world by thinking negative thoughts.
Saturday, October 10, 2009
The Super Suggestion Technique for Creating Whatever You Desire
1. THE DAILY DECLARATION TECHNIQUE
STEP ONE: List every thing that you need
STEP TWO: List every thing that you want
STEP THREE: List the personal qualities you need or want
STEP FOUR: Turn lists into goals
Each morning:
1. Immediately upon awakening, read your list of goals as you prepared. READ ALOUD, if this is not possible, then move your lips as you read silently. This is IMPORTANT.
2. After reading each goal, pause, and visualize in your mind your goals already accomplished.
Each evening:
Just before you go to sleep, repeat the morning process.
CAUTIONS:
1. Don’t tell anyone about your goals. The minute you start telling others, the energy that you’ve build up is gone.
2. You must do it daily, if you miss a day, the effectiveness will drop dramatically.
Let’s move on to the second strategy for changing your Inadequate Self Image.
2. THE SUPER SUGGESTION TECHNIQUE
1. Take one intangible goal from your daily declaration goal list. Intangible goals are those regarding to your basic personality or character qualities, such as the ability to concentrate, the ability to read faster etc. Choose ONE goal only! To maximize the effectiveness of super suggestion, you should work on one intangible goal only until it is attained. You’ll be surprised how fast you can accomplish that.
2. Take one or two keywords from your goal statement that you choose. You will use the keywords instead of the whole statement while you are in the lower state of consciousness, so that you don’t have to commit the entire statement into memory.
3. Read your entire goal statement
4. Go to the lower level of consciousness using the method I just described.
5. Repeat the keywords several times.
6. Come back to the normal state by counting from 20 to 1. When you reach 1, tell yourself you feel fully awake, totally alert.
NOTE: Both daily declaration and super suggestion must be carried out each day.
Daily declaration is for both tangible goals and intangible goals. Super suggestion is
for intangible goals only. Daily declaration should be done every morning and
evening, and as many times as you want throughout the day. Super suggestion needs only be done once a day, suggested time is before lunchtime. And with super suggestion, you work on ONE goal at a time.
STEP ONE: List every thing that you need
STEP TWO: List every thing that you want
STEP THREE: List the personal qualities you need or want
STEP FOUR: Turn lists into goals
Each morning:
1. Immediately upon awakening, read your list of goals as you prepared. READ ALOUD, if this is not possible, then move your lips as you read silently. This is IMPORTANT.
2. After reading each goal, pause, and visualize in your mind your goals already accomplished.
Each evening:
Just before you go to sleep, repeat the morning process.
CAUTIONS:
1. Don’t tell anyone about your goals. The minute you start telling others, the energy that you’ve build up is gone.
2. You must do it daily, if you miss a day, the effectiveness will drop dramatically.
Let’s move on to the second strategy for changing your Inadequate Self Image.
2. THE SUPER SUGGESTION TECHNIQUE
1. Take one intangible goal from your daily declaration goal list. Intangible goals are those regarding to your basic personality or character qualities, such as the ability to concentrate, the ability to read faster etc. Choose ONE goal only! To maximize the effectiveness of super suggestion, you should work on one intangible goal only until it is attained. You’ll be surprised how fast you can accomplish that.
2. Take one or two keywords from your goal statement that you choose. You will use the keywords instead of the whole statement while you are in the lower state of consciousness, so that you don’t have to commit the entire statement into memory.
3. Read your entire goal statement
4. Go to the lower level of consciousness using the method I just described.
5. Repeat the keywords several times.
6. Come back to the normal state by counting from 20 to 1. When you reach 1, tell yourself you feel fully awake, totally alert.
NOTE: Both daily declaration and super suggestion must be carried out each day.
Daily declaration is for both tangible goals and intangible goals. Super suggestion is
for intangible goals only. Daily declaration should be done every morning and
evening, and as many times as you want throughout the day. Super suggestion needs only be done once a day, suggested time is before lunchtime. And with super suggestion, you work on ONE goal at a time.
Friday, September 25, 2009
Your Energy Level Determines Your Luck
Many people think that luck is something that is purely random, unpredictable and difficult to control. That is because they do not know what luck really is. When you are able to know the true definition of luck, you can learn the whole science behind this phenomena and gain control over it.
Luck is another aspect of your reality and perhaps the most powerful and important one. The more conscious and aware you become of the elements of your reality, the more of a conscious and powerful creator you will be.
Your luck is your psychokinetic resonance with the environment you are in. Like everything else, luck is an energy. It is something that is quantifiable not in physical but in nonphysical ways. You can quantify it physically only in terms of its physical manifestations in your life. Luck is dependent on time, place and consciousness.
When you are lucky, you are in mental and emotional resonance with your surroundings.
When you are unlucky, it is the opposite. The level of resonance is the level of your luck.
Luck is also a feeling or emotion because emotion is energy in motion. When you are lucky, you are also feeling lucky. Your feeling is your vibration and therefore you are vibrating luck and feeing it. You feel and experience that everything is working for you when you are lucky.
You feel that everything is working against you when you aren't lucky. A state of vibrational harmony or disharmony with your environment is the whole explanation for this. You either feel that things are in a flow or things are disrupted.
Your energy level determines your luck vibration. At times when you are feeling low of energy, that is also when your luck vibration is at a low point. You are more likely to make careless mistakes, become more accident prone and flop up in some way. When you are feeling high of energy, that is also when your luck vibration is in a high state. You are sharper, clearer and more in the zone. You seem to be able to do amazing things in ways that baffle others to the point that makes you seem very skillful or lucky.
Actually luck and skill are one. The more in energetic resonance you are with your environment, the more your skill will work and the luckier you'll seem. You can always observe that when the best are in action, they always seem to have both their skill and the situation working for them. You can never separate luck from skill because after all, they are both part of the same thing called psychokinetic resonance with the environment. Your skill is your capability of handling the situation which depends on luck.
Once you know that luck is an energy, you can depend on it in that manner. You cannot depend on luck that is considered to be random chance occurrence. You can't depend on such things because they do not exist. A non existent thing cannot be depended upon. Everything that exists is a part of consciousness and can be controlled by consciousness. Therefore luck exist and is fully under your control. Knowing this, you never have to fear of bad luck because you can make all things work in your favor.
Since luck is dependent on energy, you have to pay attention to your level of energy in every moment and take charge of it. When you notice that your energy level is low, be more careful with the things you do especially if they are important. You may make mistakes that usually never happen, and wonder how could you be so unlucky or stupid.
You may realize that every time you have made careless or stupid mistakes that seem to be like bad luck, it was when your energy level was indeed at a low point.
Lack of focus and lack of being adequately present minded also creates bad luck. Do you notice that when you make stupid mistakes in situations, you felt that you were not ready? What do you mean by not being ready? You mean that you weren't focusing properly or fully enough, and you weren't being adequately present minded. The first step to controlling luck is to be present minded. If you want to be lucky, you must put your focus in the activity you are doing. Or else you'd create bad luck and mistakes.
Your level of focus and placing your mind in the present determines your psychokinetic resonance with the environment. Focusing is how you channel energy towards a particular time and place. When your focus is here, your energy is channeled here and you experience luck here. Where you focus is where you generate luck in. That is why the secret of success is focus. Successful people are lucky people because they have more focus than the unsuccessful and unlucky ones. Focus to be a lucky one.
Seek to maintain a high level of energy or vibration at all times. People who experience their luck going up and down throughout the day allow their energy to go up and down. People who experience their luck being consistently high all the time maintain their energy and vibration at a high level. At times when your energy is low, seek to increase it to a higher level again. Do not continue doing any work at a low level of energy because you will tend to make mistakes. Recharge your energy first, then work.
Be aware of negative thoughts and feelings that will bring your level of energy or vibration lower. Positive thoughts and feelings bring your energy level and vibrations higher. Therefore choose to think positive thoughts and feel positive emotions, and you will experience more luck and success in your life. You can also increase your luck when you are more intent of succeeding in a certain situation. Your energy of intent will energize you with the luck you need, and that is why willful intent bends the world to you.
Luck is another aspect of your reality and perhaps the most powerful and important one. The more conscious and aware you become of the elements of your reality, the more of a conscious and powerful creator you will be.
Your luck is your psychokinetic resonance with the environment you are in. Like everything else, luck is an energy. It is something that is quantifiable not in physical but in nonphysical ways. You can quantify it physically only in terms of its physical manifestations in your life. Luck is dependent on time, place and consciousness.
When you are lucky, you are in mental and emotional resonance with your surroundings.
When you are unlucky, it is the opposite. The level of resonance is the level of your luck.
Luck is also a feeling or emotion because emotion is energy in motion. When you are lucky, you are also feeling lucky. Your feeling is your vibration and therefore you are vibrating luck and feeing it. You feel and experience that everything is working for you when you are lucky.
You feel that everything is working against you when you aren't lucky. A state of vibrational harmony or disharmony with your environment is the whole explanation for this. You either feel that things are in a flow or things are disrupted.
Your energy level determines your luck vibration. At times when you are feeling low of energy, that is also when your luck vibration is at a low point. You are more likely to make careless mistakes, become more accident prone and flop up in some way. When you are feeling high of energy, that is also when your luck vibration is in a high state. You are sharper, clearer and more in the zone. You seem to be able to do amazing things in ways that baffle others to the point that makes you seem very skillful or lucky.
Actually luck and skill are one. The more in energetic resonance you are with your environment, the more your skill will work and the luckier you'll seem. You can always observe that when the best are in action, they always seem to have both their skill and the situation working for them. You can never separate luck from skill because after all, they are both part of the same thing called psychokinetic resonance with the environment. Your skill is your capability of handling the situation which depends on luck.
Once you know that luck is an energy, you can depend on it in that manner. You cannot depend on luck that is considered to be random chance occurrence. You can't depend on such things because they do not exist. A non existent thing cannot be depended upon. Everything that exists is a part of consciousness and can be controlled by consciousness. Therefore luck exist and is fully under your control. Knowing this, you never have to fear of bad luck because you can make all things work in your favor.
Since luck is dependent on energy, you have to pay attention to your level of energy in every moment and take charge of it. When you notice that your energy level is low, be more careful with the things you do especially if they are important. You may make mistakes that usually never happen, and wonder how could you be so unlucky or stupid.
You may realize that every time you have made careless or stupid mistakes that seem to be like bad luck, it was when your energy level was indeed at a low point.
Lack of focus and lack of being adequately present minded also creates bad luck. Do you notice that when you make stupid mistakes in situations, you felt that you were not ready? What do you mean by not being ready? You mean that you weren't focusing properly or fully enough, and you weren't being adequately present minded. The first step to controlling luck is to be present minded. If you want to be lucky, you must put your focus in the activity you are doing. Or else you'd create bad luck and mistakes.
Your level of focus and placing your mind in the present determines your psychokinetic resonance with the environment. Focusing is how you channel energy towards a particular time and place. When your focus is here, your energy is channeled here and you experience luck here. Where you focus is where you generate luck in. That is why the secret of success is focus. Successful people are lucky people because they have more focus than the unsuccessful and unlucky ones. Focus to be a lucky one.
Seek to maintain a high level of energy or vibration at all times. People who experience their luck going up and down throughout the day allow their energy to go up and down. People who experience their luck being consistently high all the time maintain their energy and vibration at a high level. At times when your energy is low, seek to increase it to a higher level again. Do not continue doing any work at a low level of energy because you will tend to make mistakes. Recharge your energy first, then work.
Be aware of negative thoughts and feelings that will bring your level of energy or vibration lower. Positive thoughts and feelings bring your energy level and vibrations higher. Therefore choose to think positive thoughts and feel positive emotions, and you will experience more luck and success in your life. You can also increase your luck when you are more intent of succeeding in a certain situation. Your energy of intent will energize you with the luck you need, and that is why willful intent bends the world to you.
Sunday, July 5, 2009
How to train to become an efficient Motivational Speaker
Get a good tutor or guide - Get the guidance from a successful motivational speaker. With the proper guidance from a good guide, you can easily deal with aggravation, frustration, and confusion which can accompany you during speech delivery. Also the guide may teach you the thinks you must not do while preparing and making your motivational speech. Moreover, an experienced guide may provide you with strong suggestions.
You must be trained to choose an important problem or message as your speech topic - Choose to speak about a problem in your society. Try to give simple solutions for an important problem that you find in your society. Speak about what you know the best.
You must be trained to market your speech profession - Market your motivational speech business through fabulous promotional booklets such as brochures, testimonials, demos, referrals, and websites.
You must be trained to develop your speaking ability - You should develop your speaking ability through enough practice in order to become a great motivational speaker.
You must be trained to create an outline of your speech presentation - Create an outline of what you have to speak during a show. The outline you created for your speech can be used as a framework for your talk.
You must be trained to give visual presentations related with your speech topic - Most people can gain more information about your speech only through a visual presentation than a spoken one. Hence, it is very important to prepare and give visual presentations related with your speech topic.
You must be trained to overcome nervousness- When you forget what to say or when you get nervous in front of the audience, do not continue your speech. Instead, take a deep breath, and speak from your heart to give some of your truthful experiences. Do not worry about what the audience will think about you. But just focus on how you can satisfy your audience.
You must be trained to present your speech carefully - It is very important to speak legibly and clearly. Stress and repeat your main messages at least three to four times. Avoid using filler words such as uh, um, eh, etc. Do not give a long pause in between your speech. Do not bore your audience with your continuous speech. Instead make it a point to create a fun and lively environment.
You must be trained to notify your availability- You must notify not-for-profit corporations, professional groups and Contact speakers' bureaus of your availability as a motivational speaker. Some Contact speakers' bureaus may charge you to put your service under list.
You must be trained to present yourself smart before the audience - Dress up yourself such that you express professionalism and success. Business apparel is doubtlessly the best one for any motivational speech.
If you start your motivational speech career strongly under a good guidance and make certain that you are moving ahead in the right direction carefully, I am sure that you can enjoy the speech time and financial freedom as a successful motivational speaker.
You must be trained to choose an important problem or message as your speech topic - Choose to speak about a problem in your society. Try to give simple solutions for an important problem that you find in your society. Speak about what you know the best.
You must be trained to market your speech profession - Market your motivational speech business through fabulous promotional booklets such as brochures, testimonials, demos, referrals, and websites.
You must be trained to develop your speaking ability - You should develop your speaking ability through enough practice in order to become a great motivational speaker.
You must be trained to create an outline of your speech presentation - Create an outline of what you have to speak during a show. The outline you created for your speech can be used as a framework for your talk.
You must be trained to give visual presentations related with your speech topic - Most people can gain more information about your speech only through a visual presentation than a spoken one. Hence, it is very important to prepare and give visual presentations related with your speech topic.
You must be trained to overcome nervousness- When you forget what to say or when you get nervous in front of the audience, do not continue your speech. Instead, take a deep breath, and speak from your heart to give some of your truthful experiences. Do not worry about what the audience will think about you. But just focus on how you can satisfy your audience.
You must be trained to present your speech carefully - It is very important to speak legibly and clearly. Stress and repeat your main messages at least three to four times. Avoid using filler words such as uh, um, eh, etc. Do not give a long pause in between your speech. Do not bore your audience with your continuous speech. Instead make it a point to create a fun and lively environment.
You must be trained to notify your availability- You must notify not-for-profit corporations, professional groups and Contact speakers' bureaus of your availability as a motivational speaker. Some Contact speakers' bureaus may charge you to put your service under list.
You must be trained to present yourself smart before the audience - Dress up yourself such that you express professionalism and success. Business apparel is doubtlessly the best one for any motivational speech.
If you start your motivational speech career strongly under a good guidance and make certain that you are moving ahead in the right direction carefully, I am sure that you can enjoy the speech time and financial freedom as a successful motivational speaker.
Saturday, May 30, 2009
Art of saying “No”
You have determined and decided to finish an important work today itself, under any circumstances, because it is long-stand pending, and you are ready with full enthusiasm to commence to do that job.
But at that time your friends arrived in group and requested you to go along with them to outside for another purpose (many times unimportant in nature), but out of modesty, you couldn’t say ‘no’ to them and you accompanied them without hesitation.
Most of us face these types of situations in our day to day life. Later on we blame ourselves unnecessarily, for not finishing our job in time.
Why we could not say ‘no ’to them. There are so many causes and reasons, as shown below.
1. Thinking that the other persons might suffer if you refuse their request.
2. They may underestimate you and misunderstand you.
3. You may be ridiculed, for your innocent behavior.
4. Shyness that is naturally present in all of us.
5. Lack of sufficient self- confidence in you.
6. Inner desire to be praised by others, as ’’good person’’.
7. under the impression that it is always well and good to be obedient that too with low-esteem to others.
8. With selfish- motto, today or tomorrow that you will be benefitted by the other person’s power, wealth, intelligence, so it is better to develop good rapport with them from now onwards.
9. To be great in other’s opinion.
10. Treating the other person as god-like and ready to do anything for his sake, and for sustaining their friendship at any cost.
11. Having slave- mentality.
12. To fulfill his personal ambitions, with other person’s help.
13. To pass time indulging in some habits, as he has no strong aim to achieve in life.
14 Thinking that if he refused to oblige their wish, next time he will have to face the same music from them.
What are the consequences, that we have to face, if we failed to say ‘’NO’’?
i) We indulge in bad habits, unnecessarily and it causes mental agony in the family members
ii) We lose both our wealth and health.
iii) We are looked down in the society.
iv). Often, we quarrel with our family members show anger on them without reason and season.
V). Time is wasted without any benefit to us.
How to say ‘no’?
1. Develop self-confidence and be firm to say ‘no’ (instead of ‘yes’), if you think that your friends’ requests are not worthy to do and follow.
2. Try to change your mentality and gradually develop the habit of saying ’no ’to false commands and demands of your colleagues.
3. Note down on a paper the amount you last within the last one week or in the past one month and also the loss of your health.
4. Everything will be alright within a short period of time and your friends also won’t dare to call you for attending such situations which are not good and unhealthy in nature.
5. Now on wards, you have the real enjoyment and plenty of mental peace in your valuable life, which is given by God, the Almighty.
Please share your experiences in saying “No
But at that time your friends arrived in group and requested you to go along with them to outside for another purpose (many times unimportant in nature), but out of modesty, you couldn’t say ‘no’ to them and you accompanied them without hesitation.
Most of us face these types of situations in our day to day life. Later on we blame ourselves unnecessarily, for not finishing our job in time.
Why we could not say ‘no ’to them. There are so many causes and reasons, as shown below.
1. Thinking that the other persons might suffer if you refuse their request.
2. They may underestimate you and misunderstand you.
3. You may be ridiculed, for your innocent behavior.
4. Shyness that is naturally present in all of us.
5. Lack of sufficient self- confidence in you.
6. Inner desire to be praised by others, as ’’good person’’.
7. under the impression that it is always well and good to be obedient that too with low-esteem to others.
8. With selfish- motto, today or tomorrow that you will be benefitted by the other person’s power, wealth, intelligence, so it is better to develop good rapport with them from now onwards.
9. To be great in other’s opinion.
10. Treating the other person as god-like and ready to do anything for his sake, and for sustaining their friendship at any cost.
11. Having slave- mentality.
12. To fulfill his personal ambitions, with other person’s help.
13. To pass time indulging in some habits, as he has no strong aim to achieve in life.
14 Thinking that if he refused to oblige their wish, next time he will have to face the same music from them.
What are the consequences, that we have to face, if we failed to say ‘’NO’’?
i) We indulge in bad habits, unnecessarily and it causes mental agony in the family members
ii) We lose both our wealth and health.
iii) We are looked down in the society.
iv). Often, we quarrel with our family members show anger on them without reason and season.
V). Time is wasted without any benefit to us.
How to say ‘no’?
1. Develop self-confidence and be firm to say ‘no’ (instead of ‘yes’), if you think that your friends’ requests are not worthy to do and follow.
2. Try to change your mentality and gradually develop the habit of saying ’no ’to false commands and demands of your colleagues.
3. Note down on a paper the amount you last within the last one week or in the past one month and also the loss of your health.
4. Everything will be alright within a short period of time and your friends also won’t dare to call you for attending such situations which are not good and unhealthy in nature.
5. Now on wards, you have the real enjoyment and plenty of mental peace in your valuable life, which is given by God, the Almighty.
Please share your experiences in saying “No
Tuesday, May 26, 2009
Minding Your Mind
We all need to develop our awareness of how we are connected to other people and the world around us, especially those of us who tend to take our blessings for granted. I recommend incorporating some kind of service work into your weekly or monthly routine. Doing service work puts the needs of others ahead of your own, and that does good both for you and the people you're helping. How do you start?
Make the commitment to yourself and then make the first phone call. Recognize, however, that you can only do so much and that sometimes helping just one person does a world of good. It's easy to become overwhelmed by the amount of suffering in the world and all the people and causes in need of help. Think about your interests and pick an activity that you feel is most deserving of your time and energy. But whatever form your service-work takes, once you take that first step you'll find it will quickly become one of your more rewarding healthy habits.
Tuesday, May 19, 2009
Build Your Self Confidence !
How To Build Your Self Confidence
One of the most important steps to achieving your goals in life is to develop a strong sense of self confidence. This does not however involve becoming loud or arrogant. On the contrary, people with genuine self confidence are usually calm and self assured and do not need to 'big note' themselves.
Here are my top ten tips for building your self confidence:
1. Visualise Yourself As The Person You Want To Be
Each morning spend a few minutes visualising yourself as the person you want to be. Think about the way you dress, the way you carry yourself and the way you interact with other people. Seeing yourself as the person you want to become is the first step towards building self confidence.
2. Self Confidence Statement
After visualising yourself as the person you want to be, read the following statement out loud:
"I know I have the ability to achieve my major goal in life. Therefore today,
I demand of myself persistent and continuous action towards achieving my goal"
Reading this statement out loud is a great way to start your day in a confident state of mind.
3. Dress Well
One of the most effective ways to instantly improve your level of self confidence is to dress well and to make the decision to always be well groomed. This does not mean you have to go out and buy a whole new wardrobe. Instead, just focus on gradually building up a small collection of good quality clothes. Also remember that simple accessories such as a tie clip or necklace can make a big difference to the way you look and feel.
4. Positive Posture
Another powerful way to build your sense of self confidence is to stand up straight and lose the slouch that many of us have acquired over the years. While you may be able to make a change to your posture by simply becoming aware of it, the best way to make a long lasting change to your posture is to practice yoga or pilates.
5. Move With Purpose
A simple but effective tip for increasing your levels of self confidence is to always move with a sense of purpose. In his book 'The Magic of Thinking Big', David Schwartz recommends walking 25% faster than normal. Having a spring in your step lets people know that you have important things to do and actually makes you feel more confident as you go about your daily business.
6. Become A Participant
Have you ever noticed that in most meetings or groups, people immediately head towards the back of the room so that they can remain as inconspicuous as possible? A great way to increase your visibility and sense of self confidence is to make the decision to always sit towards the front of the room and be a participant. When you have something to say - don't be afraid to say it.
7. Connect With Confidence
Another way to quickly improve your self confidence is to practice making a strong first impression. When you meet someone face-to-face, look them directly in the eye, smile broadly, shake hands firmly and say, "Hi Jim, nice to meet you".
Similarly, you can sound more confident on the phone by answering, "Good morning Carol Jones speaking" instead of simply saying "Hello"
8. Build Your Success File
Occasionally your self confidence will take a hit when something doesn't work out the way you hoped. One of the best ways to repair your self confidence in this situation is to keep a folder outlining your past achievements and successes. You should also include any positive feedback that you've received from others.
As you review your success file and fill your mind with positive comments, your doubts and insecurities will quickly disappear and your self confidence will be restored.
9. Preparation
The BIG secret to being self confident that people rarely talk about is - preparation. The more you prepare and practice for an event, the more self confident you will become.
If you are worried about an upcoming event, use your apprehension as a stimulus to take action and practice, practice, practice. The simple but powerful truth is that self confidence grows through repetition and experience.
10. Toastmasters
My final tip for developing self confidence is to join a Toastmasters group.
Toastmasters is a non-profit organisation that helps people from all walks of life to develop their public speaking and leadership skills. In my experience Toastmasters offers a safe and relaxed environment to step out of your comfort zone and develop the invaluable skills of being able to think on your feet and speak in public.
So there you have it!
If you implement some or all of these 10 techniques you'll gradually develop a greater sense of self confidence which in turn will help you to pursue and achieve your most important life goals.
Until next time,
Dare To Dream!
Lakhvir Singh Lucky
One of the most important steps to achieving your goals in life is to develop a strong sense of self confidence. This does not however involve becoming loud or arrogant. On the contrary, people with genuine self confidence are usually calm and self assured and do not need to 'big note' themselves.
Here are my top ten tips for building your self confidence:
1. Visualise Yourself As The Person You Want To Be
Each morning spend a few minutes visualising yourself as the person you want to be. Think about the way you dress, the way you carry yourself and the way you interact with other people. Seeing yourself as the person you want to become is the first step towards building self confidence.
2. Self Confidence Statement
After visualising yourself as the person you want to be, read the following statement out loud:
"I know I have the ability to achieve my major goal in life. Therefore today,
I demand of myself persistent and continuous action towards achieving my goal"
Reading this statement out loud is a great way to start your day in a confident state of mind.
3. Dress Well
One of the most effective ways to instantly improve your level of self confidence is to dress well and to make the decision to always be well groomed. This does not mean you have to go out and buy a whole new wardrobe. Instead, just focus on gradually building up a small collection of good quality clothes. Also remember that simple accessories such as a tie clip or necklace can make a big difference to the way you look and feel.
4. Positive Posture
Another powerful way to build your sense of self confidence is to stand up straight and lose the slouch that many of us have acquired over the years. While you may be able to make a change to your posture by simply becoming aware of it, the best way to make a long lasting change to your posture is to practice yoga or pilates.
5. Move With Purpose
A simple but effective tip for increasing your levels of self confidence is to always move with a sense of purpose. In his book 'The Magic of Thinking Big', David Schwartz recommends walking 25% faster than normal. Having a spring in your step lets people know that you have important things to do and actually makes you feel more confident as you go about your daily business.
6. Become A Participant
Have you ever noticed that in most meetings or groups, people immediately head towards the back of the room so that they can remain as inconspicuous as possible? A great way to increase your visibility and sense of self confidence is to make the decision to always sit towards the front of the room and be a participant. When you have something to say - don't be afraid to say it.
7. Connect With Confidence
Another way to quickly improve your self confidence is to practice making a strong first impression. When you meet someone face-to-face, look them directly in the eye, smile broadly, shake hands firmly and say, "Hi Jim, nice to meet you".
Similarly, you can sound more confident on the phone by answering, "Good morning Carol Jones speaking" instead of simply saying "Hello"
8. Build Your Success File
Occasionally your self confidence will take a hit when something doesn't work out the way you hoped. One of the best ways to repair your self confidence in this situation is to keep a folder outlining your past achievements and successes. You should also include any positive feedback that you've received from others.
As you review your success file and fill your mind with positive comments, your doubts and insecurities will quickly disappear and your self confidence will be restored.
9. Preparation
The BIG secret to being self confident that people rarely talk about is - preparation. The more you prepare and practice for an event, the more self confident you will become.
If you are worried about an upcoming event, use your apprehension as a stimulus to take action and practice, practice, practice. The simple but powerful truth is that self confidence grows through repetition and experience.
10. Toastmasters
My final tip for developing self confidence is to join a Toastmasters group.
Toastmasters is a non-profit organisation that helps people from all walks of life to develop their public speaking and leadership skills. In my experience Toastmasters offers a safe and relaxed environment to step out of your comfort zone and develop the invaluable skills of being able to think on your feet and speak in public.
So there you have it!
If you implement some or all of these 10 techniques you'll gradually develop a greater sense of self confidence which in turn will help you to pursue and achieve your most important life goals.
Until next time,
Dare To Dream!
Lakhvir Singh Lucky
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